On Love and Marriage

There are many songs written about “love”, “the eternal triangle”, in fact on every aspect of loving but none that I know of that is really focused on marriage per se, i.e. on the aftermath of love.

The songs often tell us what love is, how one feels when one is in love; generally the grandeur side of love and things like that. Indeed, as one song puts it, “Love is a many splendored thing”.

However, what they usually don’t tell us are the pitfalls of falling in love, the realities and the responsibilities of love.

Love is powerful and will certainly lead to consequences; some good ones and some bad. No doubt, there will always be headaches as well as heartaches to loving. So, be warned.

An old adage says this which is still probably true today, “Before marrying open wide both eyes, but after marriage shut one!”

All marriages are happy. It’s the living together afterwards that is difficult. True or not?

Clint Eastwood put it this way, “They say marriages are made in Heaven. But so is thunder and lightning!”

To some, marriage is a word; to others, a sentence. Really?

Let me tell you some of the things that other wise men and women have said on love and marriage, the truth of which I shall leave it solely to you to judge. Have fun.

“Love is blind—marriage is the eye-opener.” (~Pauline Thomason)

“Love is not blind—it sees more, not less. But because it sees more, it is willing to see less.” (~Rabbi J. Gordon)

“Love is like a fruit. It may look good, but you shouldn’t bite it until it’s ripe.” (~Nick Hertl)

“In most of life, you’ll have to kiss a lot of frogs in order to find a prince.” (~Anonymous)

“Getting married is very much like going to a restaurant with friends. You order what you want, then when you see what the other fellow has, you wished you have ordered that!” (~Anonymous)

“Marriage is like a cage, one sees the birds outside desperate to get in, and those inside desperate to get out.” (~Michel de Montaigne)

“Men marry women with the hope they will never change. Women marry men with the hope they will change. Invariably, they are both disappointed.” (~Albert Einstein)

“Plain women know more about men than beautiful women do.” (~Katharine Hepburn)

“You see a lot of smart guys with dumb women, but you hardly see a smart woman with a dumb guy.” (~Erica Jong)

“It is better for a woman to marry a man who loves her than a man she loves.” (~Anonymous)

“Bachelors know more about women than married men; if they didn’t, they’d be married too!” (~Henry L. Mencken)

“Marriage always demands the greatest understanding of the art of insincerity possible between two human beings.” (~Vicki Baum)

In conclusion, I have this to say: Indeed, what a strange thing man is; and what a stranger thing, woman!

Cheers!